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Title: What to do about...
Post by: AmberDaze on July 07, 2008, 06:07 PM
There's an annoying little bugger who is sort of stalking me...I'm sure he added me to his friends list, since he's been messaging me. I happened to meet him at least a week ago while helping Happy with her missions (Happy, you must remember him...you had booted him at one point). He followed me the next day into a friends room and was really obnoxious. He finally left, but he found me the next day...I guess he learned that I was looking for graffiti boards to draw on...so he asked me to draw him a picture. I followed him to his room and started to try and draw Mickey Mouse (which is SOOOO not easy with the weird lines and curves), but he and other ppl who began arriving, kept popping into the drawing. I exited out of the graffiti board and told him I would have to try another time...then I signed off.  He's been messaging me since, many times demanding that I let him into my house (that I've put on Member's only) and just being an all around jerk (to many others as I have heard). I haven't really been on much this past week, but I get emails when messages are received in SW, so I signed on to see what amusing thing he had to say today, and he said, "hey let me in your room!"  I sent him a message back today saying, "Please don't be rude. I wasn't in SW, I guess I was still logged in at my Home page." He sent me a message back saying, " ? it set to private and i not rude and i just asking." I know I am encouraging him by even responding, but I did and said, "hey let me in your room!" is not asking, it's demanding, and it is rude. I have my reasons for keeping my room private, and I do believe I have that option. :)"  I thought I was finally rid of him, but he replied, "sorry if it sound rude but ok pal." But then he goes and sends me a gift (a flower vase) and another message saying something like, "you get the gift and accept my apology now?" What am I going to do with this little bugger? I'm usually a patient person when it comes to others, but I just don't want anything to do with him. It isn't in me to really be rude, but if he keeps messaging me...  :boxing: Any suggestions?
Title: Re: What to do about...
Post by: Purpleduck on July 07, 2008, 06:33 PM
I had a truly bad stalker in VMK (and DIS)!  My first suggestion is to put him on your friends list, and choose the "block him" option.

While I don't know what that really does, even if it only makes it so you can't see his conversation that may help, as he should drift away after a while of not getting responses from you.. since you dont know he spoke.

If you're lucky, maybe it will catch and turn away messages he tries to send as well.

I doubt it will stop him knowing where you are, and going there (public places) but again, if you cant see his talk, he should grow bored quickly.

Feathers crossed gf! :hug:   Let me know how it goes?
Title: Re: What to do about...
Post by: AmberDaze on July 07, 2008, 06:45 PM
TY hugs, Duck.he.  :hug: Apparently he knows me from DIS...*sigh* I will definitely let you know what happens. I totally forgot about the block option though, thanks. :)

And thanks for the story you left in my guestbook, and for the purple feather trail!! I still haven't gotten all of them picked up!  :rofl3:
Title: Re: What to do about...
Post by: gshawen on July 07, 2008, 07:07 PM
 Let me in your room!
Title: Re: What to do about...
Post by: Purpleduck on July 07, 2008, 07:13 PM
TY hugs, Duck.he.  :hug: Apparently he knows me from DIS...*sigh* I will definitely let you know what happens. I totally forgot about the block option though, thanks. :)

And thanks for the story you left in my guestbook, and for the purple feather trail!! I still haven't gotten all of them picked up!  :rofl3:

Call Happy over, she has been cleaning up behind me (or Bright) since I took to the mansion game in VMK!

(btw, I think my story is the same as you mentioned here.. that you were a residual ghost that day.. cause even when i went right back to my room, you STILL showed online in your room!  Either that or you found a most excellent place to hide in there! :lolg: )
Title: Re: What to do about...
Post by: AmberDaze on July 07, 2008, 07:27 PM
Let me in your room!

ROFL Gasssss -- have you tried to get in?  :rofl3:

Call Happy over, she has been cleaning up behind me (or Bright) since I took to the mansion game in VMK! (btw, I think my story is the same as you mentioned here.. that you were a residual ghost that day.. cause even when i went right back to my room, you STILL showed online in your room!  Either that or you found a most excellent place to hide in there! :lolg: )[/color]

WoooHooo! I just got on and blocked him -- it actually said, "Block this avatar from seeing your online status, and block them from chatting with you." Now, to me this means that he cannot see the little message that I am now online, which he's probably been watching.  Ahhhh, I feel so freeeeeee...  :dance3:
Title: Re: What to do about...
Post by: Purpleduck on July 07, 2008, 07:33 PM
Alright gf!  Let's hope that works!   :clap2:
Title: Re: What to do about...
Post by: Happy on July 07, 2008, 07:41 PM
Yes, I remember him quite well.  Hope it works. 

This might be something to ask Julianna Smallworlds about when she stops by for the next checkers tourney. Maybe they can make some additional changes before beta is complete.  It would stink if you have to give your stalkers a place on your friend list just to keep them away.   
Title: Re: What to do about...
Post by: AmberDaze on July 07, 2008, 07:48 PM
Yes, I remember him quite well.  Hope it works. 

This might be something to ask Julianna Smallworlds about when she stops by for the next checkers tourney. Maybe they can make some additional changes before beta is complete.  It would stink if you have to give your stalkers a place on your friend list just to keep them away.   

I didn't think of that, thanks Happy!  :hug:
Title: Re: What to do about...
Post by: gshawen on July 07, 2008, 08:38 PM
Let me in your room!

ROFL Gasssss -- have you tried to get in?  :rofl3: 

 Yes several times and it says I do not have permission to enter your room.
Title: Re: What to do about...
Post by: AmberDaze on July 07, 2008, 09:13 PM
I'm sp sorry Gas! When I was on earlier I gave you member priviledges, so feel free to visit anytime!  :waveh:
Title: Re: What to do about...
Post by: papaduck on July 08, 2008, 11:09 AM
Let me in your room!

ROFL Gasssss -- have you tried to get in?  :rofl3:

Call Happy over, she has been cleaning up behind me (or Bright) since I took to the mansion game in VMK! (btw, I think my story is the same as you mentioned here.. that you were a residual ghost that day.. cause even when i went right back to my room, you STILL showed online in your room!  Either that or you found a most excellent place to hide in there! :lolg: )[/color]

WoooHooo! I just got on and blocked him -- it actually said, "Block this avatar from seeing your online status, and block them from chatting with you." Now, to me this means that he cannot see the little message that I am now online, which he's probably been watching.  Ahhhh, I feel so freeeeeee...  :dance3:

If that doesn't work, can I recommend low yield nuclear weapons????
A warning shot to the brain also works sometimes, particularly when done with a large caliber weapon. :thumbs:
Sometimes a simple knee to the groin is effective. :hmmmm:
Title: Re: What to do about...
Post by: silvrstrfx on July 08, 2008, 01:49 PM
Sometimes a simple knee to the groin is effective. :hmmmm:

Wow, I've never had a man endorse my usual  :rofl3: I thought it was an unspoken rule that men don't encourage that  :laugh2: :dance2:
Title: Re: What to do about...
Post by: funfly on July 08, 2008, 02:05 PM
Let me in your room!

ROFL Gasssss -- have you tried to get in?  :rofl3: 

 Yes several times and it says I do not have permission to enter your room.

I tried to follow Gas last night to visit and got the no permission to enter room. Here I thought it was just bad gas covering his tracks  :notme:
Title: Re: What to do about...
Post by: AmberDaze on July 08, 2008, 04:27 PM
Let me in your room!

ROFL Gasssss -- have you tried to get in?  :rofl3: 

 Yes several times and it says I do not have permission to enter your room.

I tried to follow Gas last night to visit and got the no permission to enter room. Here I thought it was just bad gas covering his tracks  :notme:

Aww Fun!! I don't think I even have you on my friend's list!  :ohmy: Is your title Fun Fly? I'll add you next time I go on.  :hug:
Title: Re: What to do about...
Post by: Adventuredaz on July 08, 2008, 04:36 PM
Sometimes a simple knee to the groin is effective. :hmmmm:

Wow, I've never had a man endorse my usual  :rofl3: I thought it was an unspoken rule that men don't encourage that  :laugh2: :dance2:
Note he recomended a tactical nuclear weapon or blowing his head off first and only then - if that failed...although yeah, we will be speaking to papaduck about this unauthorized disclosure :notme:
Title: Re: What to do about...
Post by: funfly on July 08, 2008, 05:02 PM
Let me in your room!

ROFL Gasssss -- have you tried to get in?  :rofl3: 

 Yes several times and it says I do not have permission to enter your room.

I tried to follow Gas last night to visit and got the no permission to enter room. Here I thought it was just bad gas covering his tracks  :notme:

Aww Fun!! I don't think I even have you on my friend's list!  :ohmy: Is your title Fun Fly? I'll add you next time I go on.  :hug:


I started as Fun Fly....but I switched over to Funfly VMK so I could find myself with VMK'ers
Title: Re: What to do about...
Post by: AmberDaze on July 08, 2008, 05:54 PM
I started as Fun Fly....but I switched over to Funfly VMK so I could find myself with VMK'ers

Just signed on and added you, although I wasn't able to see anything -- ended up with a blue screen for my room. Stalker boy messaged me... :yawn:
Title: Re: What to do about...
Post by: Purpleduck on July 08, 2008, 06:41 PM
Stalker boy messaged me... :yawn:


:ahh:  So sorry to hear that gf  :hitwall:
Title: Re: What to do about...
Post by: Happy on July 08, 2008, 07:04 PM
I started as Fun Fly....but I switched over to Funfly VMK so I could find myself with VMK'ers

Just signed on and added you, although I wasn't able to see anything -- ended up with a blue screen for my room. Stalker boy messaged me... :yawn:

Aww boo.i!  Maybe he need to have a chat with Maxx Power.   
Title: Re: What to do about...
Post by: AmberDaze on July 08, 2008, 07:59 PM
I started as Fun Fly....but I switched over to Funfly VMK so I could find myself with VMK'ers

Just signed on and added you, although I wasn't able to see anything -- ended up with a blue screen for my room. Stalker boy messaged me... :yawn:

Aww boo.i!  Maybe he need to have a chat with Maxx Power.   

ROFL I wish Maxx would log on! I think his new wood shop project has taken his priorities elsewhere. But at least I'll have that chest of drawers I've been wanting!  :woot:
Title: Re: What to do about...
Post by: funfly on July 08, 2008, 08:12 PM
I started as Fun Fly....but I switched over to Funfly VMK so I could find myself with VMK'ers

Just signed on and added you, although I wasn't able to see anything -- ended up with a blue screen for my room. Stalker boy messaged me... :yawn:

Aww boo.i!  Maybe he need to have a chat with Maxx Power.   

ROFL I wish Maxx would log on! I think his new wood shop project has taken his priorities elsewhere. But at least I'll have that chest of drawers I've been wanting!  :woot:

Thanks for adding me....shucks, maybe we need to form a group to "visit"  :boxing: your stalker
Title: Re: What to do about...
Post by: Kat on July 08, 2008, 08:28 PM
Days,

  I know you wouldn't want to hurt anyone's feelings, but in this case I think you might have to end up going with point blank honesty.  Try to word it as nicely as you can, but be firm in that you do not want him to contact you anymore and that you will not be responding.  And then stick to it. 
Title: Re: What to do about...
Post by: PrincessWendyBird on July 09, 2008, 03:25 PM
Days,

  I know you wouldn't want to hurt anyone's feelings, but in this case I think you might have to end up going with point blank honesty.  Try to word it as nicely as you can, but be firm in that you do not want him to contact you anymore and that you will not be responding.  And then stick to it. 

 :hug: Hugs Days. I agree with Kat on this and if that doesn't work, we will have to send "KingGasATac" in to take care of business.  :gas7:

But in all seriousness, sorry this is happening to you. Sigh, these people just pop up everywhere. Hugs again.  :hug:
Title: Re: What to do about...
Post by: AmberDaze on July 09, 2008, 06:09 PM
Hugs to everyone.  :hug: I have never been in this situation...I soooo hate being mean to anyone, even if they're annoying rofl. I just signed on and sent this message to him:

"I think it would be best if we not message each other anymore.  Thank you for the gesture, but I've returned your flowers. I hope you will be understanding of my decision."

It sounds so mean, but I truly don't see any reason to keep in touch with someone who makes me dread going out into any of the public areas or other friends' rooms.

Sigh, just got an email saying he sent me a message. I haven't received it yet in SW, so I'll let you know when I get it. It shows he isn't respecting my decision....sigh
Title: Re: What to do about...
Post by: AmberDaze on July 09, 2008, 06:11 PM
OK, I just got his message...I am so laughing right now. Here's what he said, "ok can we be friends though."

Is it just me, or do I detect an airflow where there shouldn't be?  :rofl3:
Title: Re: What to do about...
Post by: Happy on July 09, 2008, 08:34 PM
 :crazy2:

Well Days, I know how much you enjoy SW, other than this one situation.  Hopefully he will take the hint  :gavel: and give you some space. 

 :bighug:
Happy
Title: Re: What to do about...
Post by: Purpleduck on July 09, 2008, 08:43 PM
Yes gf, there is a draft, not an airflow!

At this time you really need to not respond.  Let it go, at least he will apparently stop sending gifts.. and it "could be" taken that he did get the drift.. and just wanted to acknowledge getting it.

I know, probably not.. but for sure if you reply, he will continue.

Believe me on that.. after my stalker!
Title: Re: What to do about...
Post by: Astro on July 10, 2008, 12:31 PM
So very sorry to hear about your "stocker", Days.  I hope things get back to normal soon for you in SW.   :hug:
Title: Re: What to do about...
Post by: AmberDaze on July 13, 2008, 11:32 AM
Woot! 3 days and no message!  :yes!:
Title: Re: What to do about...
Post by: Purpleduck on July 13, 2008, 03:09 PM
Woot! 3 days and no message!  :yes!:

 :wavet:  See?  Stick to it girl!! Congrats ;)  (now, about the one that wants the painting.. :lolg: )
Title: Re: What to do about...
Post by: Astro on July 13, 2008, 04:23 PM
Woot! 3 days and no message!  :yes!:

 :wavet:  See?  Stick to it girl!! Congrats ;)  (now, about the one that wants the painting.. :lolg: )


Woot Days!  Congrats!

LoL Ducky!  Too bad Days can't use those nice "boots" of hers, without being in her own space, that I've already seen in action. 
Title: Re: What to do about...
Post by: papaduck on July 18, 2008, 11:35 AM
Sometimes a simple knee to the groin is effective. :hmmmm:

Wow, I've never had a man endorse my usual  :rofl3: I thought it was an unspoken rule that men don't encourage that  :laugh2: :dance2:
Note he recomended a tactical nuclear weapon or blowing his head off first and only then - if that failed...although yeah, we will be speaking to papaduck about this unauthorized disclosure :notme:

All's fair in love and war.......and dealing with idiots too!! :thumbs: